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A bit of a catchup #mondayblogs

I’m in the end phases of NanoWrimo, and while I’m going to scrape through and passed the 50k goal (I’ll probably get it today), it hasn’t been the best – for various reasons, both around the project, and not. The last post on this blog was just before everything – and I really do mean *everything* changed.  I don’t actually know what happened.  I’m told that a few days before everything tipped upside down for me. Basically, I woke up on that Thursday afternoon, and came down to talk to my partner. But I was confused.  The house wasn’t right. It…

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Good news/bad news #mondayblogs #pennyforyourthoughts

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, and before I dive in, I want to say, this IS about writing. In it’s own way at least, but it’s a lot more about how serious something that looks innocuous can get to be. I’ve spent the last six years dipping in and out of anaemia. Due to a reason I’ve already written about (the book I’ll eventually re-release, with all the others, “I don’t want to wear incontinence pants”, which is basically about how bad it is for me when I get my period, and what I’ve found worked for…

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Book news, press Y to continue

Or ask me why I guess. I’ve spent the last few weeks trying to tread water. If I’m honest, since around April, and the AtoZ challenge, with a very few exceptions, writing has been like pulling teeth.Part of it has been my health problems, which have been ongoing for more than a year. What I didn’t know was if your B12 and foliate drop to a certain level, you slowly stop being able to do complex cognitive stuff (keep on top of your blood tests, kids!), which meant what I took for apathy was probably my B12 going through the…

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Where I was, where I am, where I’m going #Mondayblogs #ByKai #Rebrand

Well…that was a bit longer than I meant it to be. Sorry about that. I went offline in July to try and get a bit of clarity on how to plan and merge down everything and while that project is still in progress…no, actually, is still in the beginning phases, I have good reason for it. A year ago this week, I was diagnosed as having issues with B12, foliate (which is important if you’re still trying to extend your family, which we are, but actually, is an important thing for memory, and nerve and muscle connectivity and all sorts…

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Immunocompromised again #MondayBlogs #ouch #myface #Shingles

I was quite looking forward to redesigning my blog and adding a new feature last week, but as the week wore on and I spent more time in bed, editing (I can’t complain, not really, I’ve got the ‘luxury’ of doing that, I guess), it turned out that I was really struggling for a different reason, beyond ‘maybe I overdid it a bit while doing all the things in the last six weeks (beginning of June, to now, I’ve done two conventions, one Discovery session, one UK Arena (#LudoSport #OneNameOneSky #Bristol!) plus all of the other stuff, from dealing with…


Changes afoot #MondayBlogs #Kaiyearofchange

You might have wondered where I went after the AtoZ. I didn’t even really finish that, but the truth is, I’ve been working on changing *waves at everything around me* in a very piecemeal way in the last couple of years, and having spent a whole YEAR in limbo of ‘should I do this, could I do that,’, I finally pulled the cord, hit the detonation button, pulled down walls, slegehammered a pile of crap… And ended up, after all that, facing down the fact that (a) I said this in 2018, when my adopted sister died, only to be…

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R is for Run girl Run #recovery #MondayBlogs

Kind of a crosspost day today. A couple of days ago, I talked about Psychosis. I’ve also talked about LudoSport and the impact it’s made on my mental health. This time last year, I was approached by a publisher to write a book about my mental health recovery. We’d talked about doing it before the pandemic, because I’d started learning to walk, then run again after a neck injury, that was to me, life altering. And I say ‘to me’ because I only needed a zimmer for a bit, and by our trip a month later to London, I only…

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Q is for quiet

This entry is part 22 of 22 in the series AtoZ 2023 - The AtoZ of Me

I’ve been working more lately with either really low ‘focus’ music on in the background (right now, for example I’ve got Endel running in the background. The different modes of music, based on what I’m doing are really nice) or with a true crime show or podcast in the background. It’s been really good to start finding my flow and workspace during the day – what I want to do, what I don’t.I’m shifting into a more creative phase now, so coding isn’t as interesting to me, which means in about three weeks, I’ll be reading and taking lots of…

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P is for Petrichor

This entry is part 21 of 22 in the series AtoZ 2023 - The AtoZ of Me

Again, because of the post I was struggling with, this is a late post today. Apologies. So, I’ve talked a little bit about LudoSport, and, when I get the chance, I’ll get a few photos of myself competing or training, but I wanted to tell you guys a little bit about my blade, Petrichor. In LudoSport, you get a hilt, and a carbon fiber blade, which lights up (hence lightsaber) to fight with. The carbon fiber blade itself is pretty sturdy, but does break (my Form 1 instructor and dear friend is our blade breaker in the Academy), but isn’t…

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P is for Psychosis #realmentalhealth #mondayblogs #nomorestigma

This entry is part 20 of 22 in the series AtoZ 2023 - The AtoZ of Me

This is one of my harder blog posts to write, because though I talk – a lot – about the impact my mental health has on my day to day life, and has done for a while, I’m pretty sure that this is the bit no one really understands, causes the most…misunderstanding and I hope, because I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, they can’t relate to. If you didn’t know that psychosis was a feature of my mental health diagnosis, or didn’t understand if you’d heard it mentioned before now, please…don’t start changing your opinion of me. That’s the biggest reason those of us with serious mental health issues aren’t as open as society needs. Because we lose people.

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O for oracle (and tarot)

This entry is part 19 of 22 in the series AtoZ 2023 - The AtoZ of Me

I’ve got a really cool collection of Oracle and Tarot cards. I use them when writing, when considering what to do next, and just for comfort. Today, I thought I’d share some of my favorite oracle and tarot decks, and why I love them so much.(I bought mine, mostly, from my friendly local gaming store, Etsy, or was gifted them – most of the links to purchases for these are either Etsy, or if I can’t find them there, Amazon, so some might be affiliate links). This is just a small set of my decks. How I use them… I…

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N is for Nature

This entry is part 18 of 22 in the series AtoZ 2023 - The AtoZ of Me

I guess, as I’ve spent the last month planning everything, that I didn’t realise how serendipitous this week would actually work out. Yesterday, I was lucky enough to spend a few hours just…soaking in the natural beauty in an arboretum called Batsford.Batsford Arboretum is one of those places that I’ve been, again and again, to relax. When I lived in Edinburgh, I wasn’t far from trees, water, nature (Colinton Dell), so when we moved, it was kinda hard for me, because though we still lived on the outskirts of towns, it wasn’t as easy to get to places as it…

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