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Dilemmas Dilemmas

Jun 22, 2011 | Announcements | 7 comments

I’ve got a bit of a problem. Dilemmas if you will.

Y’see, for the last few years I’ve been trying to get my life ‘under control’.  And by ‘control’ I mean sitting with work that I can manage easily, covers everything I like to talk about and gives back to the community.  This has been going on for a while now, I’ve been kinda talking about it since January (‘I’m feeling a bit overwhelmed right now‘) and then again in March.
and now we’ve come a full circle.  Well, kinda.

I’m thinking about amalgamating everything down onto – and then keeping one blog.  After all, what makes me most passionate and what floats my boat is everything I do anyway – coding, writing, books, fiction, indie author support, reviewing and editing.  If I did that, I’d also have time to launch my indie community project, but the problem then becomes ‘are people really gonna be interested in everything I do?’

And I think the answer is going to be yet.  People are, after all, interested in me.  Everything that makes up me are all of the fragmented sites.  I’d want to work with a couple of things that wouldn’t be on the main blog, but the majority of it is coming back to here.  And I think that works.

If I’m branding as ‘Kaiberie’ anyway, it all works 😉  Welcome to my new world.


  1. Allen Schatz

    There’s only ONE you. Simplify and condense your stuff to “one online you” too… this is all too hard if you don’t, as you’ve discovered. One may be the loneliest number, but in this case, the best option.


  2. Rusty

    Kai, I find you one of the most interesting people I’ve met since joining the various groups. You’re real . . . you don’t BS people and I like that. I will admit that there are some things that you are into that are too complex for my mind – but darn, I enjoy so much of your various projects that even if I’m not involved in them, I do follow the progress. If you feel that you have to condense things, then by all means do so. You do have a life!
    I don’t know if this is the reply you were looking for but I had to tell you anyway.

  3. Rae

    I think you should do whatever makes things easier and happier for you. If pulling everything into one place makes it better for you, then go for it! All of those things make up who you are, which is the most important part of your blog anyway: you. 🙂

  4. Mary Ann Peden-Coviello

    I think combining is a great idea, for more than one reason. It will get your “brand” all in one place and that’s a good thing. It will also make it easier for those of us — and there are many — who like to follow you all over the internet, picking up little gems from you to do so. One stop following. Well, more or less anyway. The easier you make it for people to follow you and be your fans, the more likely they are to plunk down the (insert money sign of preference) for your excellent books.

  5. Dannye Williamsen

    Kai, I believe that if you don’t either cut back or combine what you’re doing, then some of it will suffer, which means that you will be unhappy about that. You know the saying: Simplify! Simplify!

    I had a blog that dealt with spiritual psychology applied to everyday life because it is a passion of mine; however, the foray into the bookstore meant that different things were expected of me. So I finally just combined my love of spiritual psychology and writing into one blog. If people don’t care for some of it, hey, that’s life! The point is, like you said, it makes me happy! Since I’m the one who has to live with me, that’s a very important consideration. 😀

    Another reason for combining what you do is that it can serve to make your brand stronger. People will be better able to get a picture of who you are and what exactly you do. [I just noticed that Mary Ann said this, too, which is all the more reason to do it!]

  6. Donna K. Fitch

    I think everyone’s already said what I was going to say, Kai, but I’ll say it anyway. You are such an intriguing person that I’d like to see all the many facets of your personality in one place. With all you have going, I suspect simplifying your life (as Dannye said above) would do you a world of good. But I’m still a fan of yours no matter what you decide. 🙂

  7. Bonnie Rice

    I have some of the same issues. At least I’ve kept the same name throughout, but I’ve found passions in several different online worlds and find that building a presence for myself has become much more complicated.

    I like the idea of keeping everything in one place and letting the guests sort out what they want to take from me and what they want to skip. There are a handful of people who will be interested in all of the stuff I’m interested in, just as there will be some who will appreciate all of the facets of yourself that you display. There will also be many who connect with only one or two of those passions.

    Trying to keep up with things all over the place is too much a juggling act and doesn’t allow you much freedom. Having a central place that’s about you–all the sides of you–makes sense.

    Good luck–have fun.


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