My partner and I have chatted over the last couple of days – and one of the things that has come out is the fact that I need to buckle down and deal with my university assignments. And it got me thinking – there’s a lot of changes I need to make over the next few months.
One of the things I’ve come around to, slowly, is that popularity doesn’t matter. Not on a personal level at least. Professionally, I work in a career that relies on what interest I can raise in my writing, so professionally it’s a different matter entirely. It’s critical to me to understand how to balance my professional and personal life, so this is why I’m clearing out my Facebook, and why I’m changing some of the ‘groups’ I’ve categorized people in – it means you’re probably going to lose access to some of my more personal updates.
Being classified into the ‘professional’ list doesn’t mean that you’re *not* in other lists – but it does mean that if I’m posting something about the craft of writing, it’s probably going to go to that list. It also means I can be more confident about posting leads that people are actually going to use, and tailor my ‘stuff’ to the people who really need to see it.
Also, also, this is my personal blog. I can talk a bit about my mental health ‘stuff’ on here, but ultimately, I try not to let my disorder ‘beat’ me (at least in the terms that people seem to consider when looking at mental health). I’m a survivor, simply because up until recently, I’ve had no choice. Being too self reliant is one of the big problems that my other half talks to me about – I don’t talk to him until my problems are waaaay beyond where I can handle them, which is bad. And I’m working on that.
These changes – all of them – aren’t going to come overnight. Nothing ever does in my household, but what I do know is that I’ve got stupid amounts of work to do, and I’m not doing it navel gazing.
Next couple of posts are going to talk publishing, self publishing and some other ‘stuff’. Requests? I’d really love your feedback and comments. If you’re interested in something I’ve touched on but haven’t talked about yet, tell me 😉
Kai is a writer, author and avid reader. A mental health advocate, Ludosport athlete and coder. She’s the mother of two young adults, owned by two cats, and lives with her beloved in the Cotswolds.